I’ve been reading two of Brene Brown’s books over the last couple of weeks, Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection. If you aren’t familiar with her work, Brene is a researcher who, after many years in the social work field, set out to learn about human connection. As she states, “The ability to feel connected is what gives meaning and purpose to life. It’s the reason we are here.” So she selected this area as her course of study. But, as she began to interview and ask people about connection and belonging, instead they would share their stories of disconnection or exclusion. Much to her surprise, her work unraveled the elements at the root of disconnection, which turn out to be shame and fear.
One of the many things that really resonated with me about her work is that she boldly discusses the great fear (or great LIE) that we all share– “We are not enough.”
Brene shares this quote from Lynne Twist, in her book called The Soul of Money.
“For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is, “I didn’t get enough sleep.” The next one is, “I don’t have enough time.” Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think to question or examine it. We spend most of the hours and days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining or worrying about what we don’t have enough of…
We don’t have enough exercise. We don’t have enough work, We don’t have enough profits. We don’t have enough weekends. Of course, we don’t have enough money- ever.
We aren’t thin enough, we’re not smart enough, we’re not pretty enough or fit enough or educated or successful enough, or rich enough-ever.
Before we even sit up in bed, before our feet touch the floor we’re already inadequate, already behind, already losing, already lacking something.
And by the time we go to bed at night, our minds are racing with a litany of what we didn’t get, or didn’t get done that day. We go to sleep burdened by those thought and wake up to the reverie of lack…
What begins as a simple expression of the hurried life, or even the challenged life, grows into the great justification for an unfulfilled life.”
WOW- so true! How do we change this?
Lynne goes on to say.
“We each have the choice in any setting to step back and let go of the mindset of scarcity. Once we let go of scarcity, we discover the surprising truth of sufficiency. By sufficiency, I don’t mean quantity of anything. Sufficiency isn’t two steps up from poverty or one step short of abundance. It isn’t a measure of barely enough or more than enough. Sufficiency isn’t an amount at all. It is an experience, a context we generate, a declaration, a knowing that there is enough and that we are enough.
Sufficiency resides inside of each of us, and we can call it forward. It is a consciousness, an attention, an intentional choosing of the way we think about our circumstances.”
I challenge you to “call forward” an attitude of sufficiency.
YOU ARE ENOUGH!
How can you think differently about your circumstances today?
Watch Brene's talk and give yourself a big hug.